What We See

What we see in others, we most likely do not see in ourselves. The more workshops I do, the more this becomes apparent. At my "Effective Communication" workshop, I ask the participants what their pet peeve is when they interact with people. Their answers always surprise me. I work with a woman who is abrupt and can have a rough demeanor. When I asked her this question, she answered that she hates nasty people. At my workshop last week, I asked the same question and two women also gave surprising answers. A woman with a very heavy Mediterranean accent said she disliked people with accents, as she could not understand them. The other woman who rambled on and on throughout the workshop, said she disliked people who do not know when to stop talking. I could see the other group member's eyes looking confused as these two women made their statements. If this was a group therapy, I could explain to them that what they disliked about others was what they themselves do, but my workshops are not the venue for that.